Guys I am scared

[lostfool 680]

This is a serious topic so if you are going to be an asshole you can fuck off.  

 

Let me tell you about my girlfriend.  She's way out of my league.  Smart, beautiful, kind and the absolute best of us all.  She is 15 years younger than me and yes somehow finds me to be the most amazing person in her life.  Every morning for the last 3 months the first thing she tells me when she wakes up is "you're my favorite always and forever".  

 

Last night she collapsed and I had to do cpr on her for 10 minutes before the paramedics took over.  After another 10-15 min they got a pulse. If she wasn't so fit they may not resuscitated her.  I am devastated and scared.  

 

I've had four close people in my life die while I was holder their hand (my uncle, my mom, my grandmother, and my sister).  Idk if I can handle losing another loved one.  My heart can't handle it. 

[Casual 732]

TSHBO

[MalaXmaS 647]

You should be ready to lose her eventually too.

But I don't think you are understanding what or who is the real problem here.

Holy fucking low self steem.

[Mr. Impossible 409]

1 minute ago, MalaXmaS said:

You should be ready to lose her eventually too.

But I don't think you are understanding what or who is the real problem here.

Holy fucking low self steem.

 

Your incel is showing. 

[MalaXmaS 647]

2 minutes ago, Mr. Impossible said:

 

Your incel is showing. 

I can smell your estrogen from here.

[Mr. Impossible 409]

2 minutes ago, MalaXmaS said:

I can smell your estrogen from here.

 

Because you hate women so bad you consider a guy thinking he landed someone out of his league is a bigger issue than his concern for  her health/life?  You think you have self confidence? 

[-GD-X★ 7,738]

This probably isn’t the best forum for personal stuff (looks at posts above), but wishing you all the best. 

[z,warrior 155]

I’m sorry to hear what you are going through lostfool, I hope she will be okay. 
 

I don’t know why she would collapse and need resuscitation or if that was the first time or a recurring thing. I had a roommate who, because of a car accident, would have seizures often; just falls on the floor and starts flopping like a fish out of water. It became easier to see the signs, whenever he was stressed we’d just need to be close to him as that is when it would happen, and make sure he gets through it without choking. He’d forget who we were momentarily and every time we called paramedics just in case it got worst.

 

He was just a roommate and not a current love of my life, and it was still scary each time, so I can’t imagine what it must feel like for you, but if it is a recurring issue she has, just keep in mind to prepare for the worst and also be hopeful she will get through this.

Edited August 5, 2023 by z,warrior

[MalaXmaS 647]

1 hour ago, Mr. Impossible said:

 

Because you hate women so bad you consider a guy thinking he landed someone out of his league is a bigger issue than his concern for  her health/life?  You think you have self confidence? 

Criticizing certain aspects about women = hating all women.

 

We all know your mind cant comprehend too much but please stop humiliating yourself everytime I see you.

 

A guy thinking he is with a girl out of his league is a problem, for him.

 

You should never have that mentality when you are with someone.

[MalaXmaS 647]

45 minutes ago, z,warrior said:

I’m sorry to hear what you are going through lostfool, I hope she will be okay. 
 

I don’t know why she would collapse and need resuscitation or if that was the first time or a recurring thing. I had a roommate who, because of a car accident, would have seizures often; just falls on the floor and starts flopping like a fish out of water. It became easier to see the signs, whenever he was stressed we’d just need to be close to him as that is when it would happen, and make sure he gets through it without choking. He’d forget who we were momentarily and every time we called paramedics just in case it got worst.

 

He was just a roommate and not a current love of my life, and it was still scary each time, so I can’t imagine what it must feel like for you, but if it is a recurring issue she has, just keep in mind to prepare for the worst and also be hopeful she will get through this.

You shouldn't be serious with a known troll in this place.

Apart from being insecure, he is also selfish.

His girlfriend, who is "out of his league" collapses and all that he can think about it is himself.

[Remij 4,679]

It's scary how many young, seemingly fit people are collapsing/dying from heart related issues.  A lot of people drink a lot of those damn energy drinks, and also mix them with alcohol, not to mention prescription drugs which are accidentally improperly used mixed.  A lot of people also simply have heart conditions which go undetected since birth until later in life until it's too late.  It's crazy.

 

Lostfool, it's hard to know what to say in these kinds of situations as we really don't know each other..  but I'll tell you one thing.. you've got to not be so hard on yourself.. for your own sake.  Life can be extremely cruel sometimes.. but remember there's so many people who have been in similar situations to you.. where they've lost everything, and/or feel like they're about to lose everything, and it suffocates them.  It's a sad road.. and many have walked it.  You have to push forward and honor those people's lives through your own and carry on, no matter what.. as that is what they would want.  You mentioned that you've lost people close to you while holding their hand in yours, and that's an extremely sad thing and I'm sorry for that.. but you can also choose to look at it as you were the one who was with them till the very end.  You gave them whatever comfort that could be brought to them in their final moments.. you got to hold them and say goodbye.  Soo many people don't get that chance.

 

Whatever happens, you did everything you could.  I know you're scared, but you can't let it overwhelm you.  You can only do what you can do..  I hope she makes a full recovery man.

[Tears of the Cows 1,209]

Is this your friends ex wife?

[Mr. House 3,371]

Never let the future disturb you. You will meet it, if you have to, with the same weapons of reason which today arm you against the present. 

 

- Marcus Aurelius 

 

 

[kaz 2,439]

TLHBFK

 

(bruv we talked in pm in the past if you needed to, I'm still here for you if you need to talk)

[jehurey 3,230]

Best you can do is listen to every doctor, and it may be difficult because you are not family and therefore they may not speak to you during this process unless she has you listed as an emergency contact and give permission for them to speak to you.

 

What it is she's dealing with, what conditions she has, what she is allowed and not allowed to do.

 

And then discuss with her that she has to do next in order to try and recover from this.

 

And then, if she is okay with it, contribute to her doing what is necessary on a day to day basis. Sometimes it means acting like her conscience and prodding her that she has to do what the doctor's have instructed. If it requires lifestyle changes, then you have to contribute to making sure she makes those lifestyle changes.

 

Like for example, off the top of my head, I'm sure her life would greatly improve without an immensely-whiny bitch of a boyfriend.

[lostfool 680]

8 hours ago, Tears of the Cows said:

Is this your friends ex wife?

No

[JonDnD 2,626]

So what happened

[Mr. Impossible 409]

19 hours ago, MalaXmaS said:

Criticizing certain aspects about women = hating all women.

 

Yeah, it's a tell. Like what do you call it when someone decides to exclusively criticize one group based on generalizations. Have you seen one guy who decides he has to voice women's "problems" and doesn't come off as an insecure asshole? 

 

19 hours ago, MalaXmaS said:

We all know your mind cant comprehend too much but please stop humiliating yourself everytime I see you.

 

Lol this sounded like a burn in your head m

 

19 hours ago, MalaXmaS said:

A guy thinking he is with a girl out of his league is a problem, for him.

 

You should never have that mentality when you are with someone.

 

How so? What if she thinks the same about him or a similar sentiment? You give the most sociopathic wannabe-alpha forever alone bullshit viewpoints possible. 

[JonDnD 2,626]

You guys are all obsessed with each other 

[MalaXmaS 647]

9 hours ago, Mr. Impossible said:

 

Yeah, it's a tell. Like what do you call it when someone decides to exclusively criticize one group based on generalizations. Have you seen one guy who decides he has to voice women's "problems" and doesn't come off as an insecure asshole? 

 

 

Lol this sounded like a burn in your head m

 

 

How so? What if she thinks the same about him or a similar sentiment? You give the most sociopathic wannabe-alpha forever alone bullshit viewpoints possible. 

Let's face it.

You are just here to get a reaction, and no matter how negative and humiliating is against you, you won't stop

I'll just stop with the abuse right now.